What Is So Important About Finding Your Purpose in Life?
Maybe without it, you struggle to get out of bed in the morning
Finding your purpose in life isn’t part of a distasteful ‘me’ culture. Nor is it a tepid route to self-improvement. It means much more than that.
Your life purpose, once uncovered, is a gift. It’s a life hack that boosts wellbeing, and its dynamism is rocket fuel. Here’s why discovering your personal ‘meaning for being’ will boost your happiness, self-confidence, energy, value, and success.
Not knowing your ‘reason to be’ is like owning a gas oven, but having nothing to light it with. You have all the equipment you need, but unless something ignites your fire, nothing’s cooking.
People who know their life purpose are magnetic. Everyone loves them because they exude vitality and enthusiasm. Even if you’ve shown no interest in topics before, when they speak about them you catch their enthusiasm.
They spread motivation, infecting everyone in their surroundings. And you leave their company happier and lighter than you were before you met them.
It’s not always easy to find your life purpose. But you gain instant benefits when you do. Until then, like most people, you might focus on humdrum activities and concerns.
Life’s hamster wheel revolves, and you’re on it. You might know you’re in a rut, but not know how to do anything different.
Life on the wheel is lackluster. It’s boring and meaningless. Your motivation’s low and the only things to look forward to are entertainment and highs produced by things like alcohol, carbs, sugar, and other mood-boosters.
You’ll know you’re in a rut, and on that wheel, if your goals don’t excite you. You might begin a course, start a new job, or do something else to improve life. Whatever you do doesn’t fill you with energy, though.
You strive, yet, since you don’t have a clear purpose, everything feels like toil. You run fast, making the wheel turn, and get nowhere.
What it means to find your purpose in life
When you uncover your life purpose, you find what drives you. You know yourself better, which, in itself, can improve your life in dramatic ways.
You discover what makes you get up in the morning and how to increase passion in your life. And with passion, you have greater zest and feel vital and alive.
Everything has more importance because you push your life in valuable directions. And the effect snowballs. Everyone you meet feels the impact of your energy and enthusiasm.
You become attractive because who doesn’t want to be with someone positive and full of zeal?
Your passion provides unlimited mental energy, which you need to succeed and meet goals. It makes you look forward to each day, and each step along the journey takes you somewhere you want to go. You stop traveling wherever life takes you and assume control over your destiny.
You’re designed to seek growth
Humans are built to seek improvement. The search helps us develop and shifts us forward. Without a purpose that makes your heart leap with joy and stimulates your brain, fueling physical and mental energy, you aren’t happy.
Secretly, or not so secretly, you’ve always thought you were destined to do something special. And you’ve seen others do it.
And when they find meaning in their lives, your heart sinks. You’re reminded that unlike them, you’ve not found that important thing with the power to optimize you and make you zing with joy.
Sometimes, it feels so close, you can almost smell it. Yet, it’s elusive because you have your eyes set, not on uncovering it, but on making the wheel turn.
Unless you find a purpose, your reason to get out of bed each morning, you’ll fall into decline. Your enthusiasm to do anything will drop as you lose energy.
Boredom and a sense of ‘why bother’ will set in and color all you do. You’ll be less successful since you have little enthusiasm, and are less magnetic because no one wants to spend time with disinterested folk. And you’ll hit the snooze button repeatedly on your alarm when the day dawns.
You aren’t so successful with no purpose
No one puts sufficient effort into their work, relationships, or anything else without their purpose to fuel them. They might feel as though they work hard and try to make ends meet. But lack of energy and motivation means they don’t do their best, despite striving to get ahead.
You know only too well, when you sit at your desk, determined to write or complete a project, unless you are enthusiastic about your task, your feet will drag. Ideas flow, and output increases, when you don’t just need, but ‘want’ to do what you do.
Not knowing your ‘reason to be’ is like owning a gas oven, but having nothing to light it with. You have all the equipment you need, but unless something lights your fire, nothing’s cooking.
Having a purpose fuels confidence
Because working toward a meaningful life gives you vitality and makes you magnetic, it also boosts confidence. When your motivation’s high, and you attract like-minded people, your self-esteem grows.
You note you can ignite positive changes in the world. You make an impact and have value. When you see your value, self-doubt is replaced by determination and resilience. And your tenacity and confidence help you achieve your goals.
How to figure out your purpose
Your life purpose, that thing that makes you want to leap out of bed rather than stay under the covers, lights you up. It’s what you love to do, above all else.
It might also have something to do with your beliefs and morals. If you’re outraged by something, your oven’s lit. Your ethics can be the fuel needed to give you energy and move you to take action.
Happiness might get you off the hamster wheel too. What warms your heart and lifts your spirits? Is it being around animals? Assisting vulnerable people? Working with children? Helping people get through emotional problems?
Being out on the open water in a boat? Dancing? Gardening? Finding out ways to improve health?
You’ll be willing to sacrifice time and energy to follow your true purpose because it means that much to you. Indeed, this is one way to test whether you’re headed in the right direction.
If you don’t want to put in extra effort or give up social time for something, it’s not your purpose. Your purpose need not necessarily engender sacrifice, but it will enthuse you to go that extra mile. Anything less won’t have the same appeal or motivate you.
Note what people appreciate about you
Friends, family, and colleagues provide feedback about the qualities they most admire in you. Do they enjoy your company because you are kind, resourceful, helpful, or fun? Or maybe they like you for other reasons.
No doubt, you take the qualities they admire for granted because they are familiar parts of you. Look at them, though. Shine a light on them and note what people think sets you apart and makes you shine. You can be sure you’ll discover hints that help you uncover your purpose.
Follow your enthusiasm
Some things boost your vitality, while others leave you cold. Then there are the things most people do much of the time. These things are somewhere in the middle.
They get them nowhere and aren’t associated with their purpose in life. Rather, they are fill-ins that take up time like watching excessive amounts of television, surfing the web aimlessly, and other activities that aren’t particularly good or bad.
Can you imagine how much further ahead in life you would be if you did fewer fill-in activities and more meaningful ones? Valuable behaviors often go hand-in-hand with enthusiasm. Not always. But mostly.
If you enjoy writing poems more than you love watching repeat shows on TV, for instance, why not follow your enthusiasm?
Most people spend too much time in the ‘between’ meaningless and meaningful zones of life. They aren’t enjoying themselves; they just plod.
It’s fine to rest and relax. These things are vital and aren’t fill-ins. Habits that simply eat time and attention, however, steal your motivation and take time away from more enjoyable, meaningful actions.
Your purpose isn’t a single goal: It’s a philosophy
People sometimes get muddled when they consider their purpose. They imagine it’s synonymous with goal-setting. When you know your purpose, goals are likely to follow.
But those goals aren’t what gives your life meaning. The fuel beneath your goals is your purpose, and it’s more of a philosophy than an eventual target.
It’s something you fit into your lifestyle. You make it part of your routine. And it underlies many of your actions. If you find meaning in looking after the planet, for instance, your purpose isn’t to stop plastic from being dumped in the oceans: it’s living sustainably. You might work toward stopping plastic waste, but your behavior’s a byproduct of your philosophy.
Don’t base your purpose on fear
Fear won’t give you energy. It won’t motivate you to create positive change in your life. Not much, anyway. It will bring you down and generate pessimism. Your attitude will be that of a shrinking violet rather than an ambassador for something better if the only thing driving you is fear.
You might, for example, lack money and decide it’s a good plan to turn making more wealth into your purpose in life. Because fear doesn’t increase energy, motivation, joy, attractiveness, or anything else positive, your aim won’t engender happiness. it may boost funds, but with a lack-based attitude, you won’t enjoy them.
What do you find easy?
It’s easy to follow your purpose, which means anything that feels like a hard slog isn’t where it’s at. Remember, what brings you meaning zaps you with energy and enthusiasm.
It might involve hard work at times, in the form of long hours and effort. But time will fly by and tasks won’t wear you out.
Find your tribe
Although you can discover and follow a meaningful life without support, it’s more helpful to be among your tribe. Your tribe consists of people with a comparable mindset to yours.
At first, you may seek what makes you tick and not know what your purpose is, but find others with parallel values. Individuals who think similarly will point you in the right direction.
They’ll support you, noting your qualities that relate to your purpose. And they’ll provide valuable feedback and motivate you.
The search for meaning is like looking for happiness
Finding your purpose is key to contentment. When your life has meaning, everything that takes you toward your chosen path fulfills you.
Even setbacks don’t put you off because you have enough zest and motivation to continue. You improve rather than quit and see mistakes as learning curves.
Happiness comes from leading a meaningful life. That doesn’t necessarily mean your purpose is to do anything huge or spectacular. You might find meaning in the creation of a sustainable allotment, loving relationships, or a simple life close to nature.
You need not aim to be a millionaire, the first person to climb a newly discovered mountain range, or discover the cure for cancer.
That allotment will contribute to more meaning in your life because you’ll share your harvest or teach people how to make their vegetable gardens. And loving relationships lead to more satisfaction because they increase infectious joy.
This leads to the next point. Your purpose includes making a difference to people. It involves changing others’ lives for the better because if it didn’t, there would be no reason to do it.
You can increase your comfort. But eventually, whatever you do will lack meaning unless it serves humanity.
Those mornings when you want to stay under the quilt, and repeatedly hit your alarm’s snooze button, signal a lack of purpose. You may have responsibilities, and plenty of things to do, but without a life-kindling fire beneath you, why bother?
On one hand, you need not have a purpose, and just being alive is surely enough reason to carry on and put one step in front of the other. Besides, having to own a purpose puts pressure on you to ‘be’ or ‘do,’ when you can simply exist.
On the other hand, though, you aren’t the same person with no purpose to put a spring in your step. You’re on the hamster wheel or filling in time. And that’s okay if it’s what you choose.
But when you understand who you are, when you light up with meaning and purpose at your heels, you’ll realize why it’s worth sniffing out your purpose.
There’s nothing you must be or do in life other than meet your responsibilities. And even those might be called into question if you have no regard for them.
If you struggle to get out of bed, nonetheless, or find yourself in a rut, uncover your purpose in life. Once you do, you’ll benefit from life’s highest emotions to fuel your success and happiness.
Copyright © 2020 Bridget Webber. All rights reserved
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