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What Cato Meant by “I Begin to Speak Only When I’m Certain What I’ll Say Isn’t Better Left Unsaid.”
It’s worth bearing in mind if you want to improve your communication skills and relationships
The Roman senator Marcus Porcius Cato, 95 BC — April 46 BC, was, and still is, known for his stoic wisdom. His famous words, “I begin to speak only when I’m certain what I’ll say isn’t better left unsaid,” are as valuable today as they were in his lifetime. They suggest the importance not only of pausing before you speak but also of checking you don’t say something detrimental.
Cato’s phrase is better known today; perhaps, in the paraphrased version, some things are better left unsaid. Many have heard this before but have not taken it to heart. Bearing these words in mind if you want to improve your communication skills and relationships is crucial.
Why some things are better left unsaid
You might assume it’s necessary to let people know your opinions without considering the consequences of revealing them. Your motivation, doubtless, is to be understood when you speak your mind. Or you have a wish to assert your right to free speech. Just because it’s possible to say something, however, doesn’t mean that’s the best option…
