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It’s Good to Talk and Get Everything out in the Open, Apart From When It Isn’t
Note the best times to converse or stay quiet, and your relationships will improve
As a former counselor, you might imagine I promote the idea it’s best to talk. After all, communication is a vital element in all healthy relationships and often does a great deal of good. Nonetheless, sometimes it’s best to button up and keep your thoughts to yourself.
I’ve witnessed many arguments, and one thing stands out when the air’s rife with battle fumes. Some words are best left unsaid. They hurt, and once they leave your mouth, there’s no taking them back. They’re out there, and you might regret having uttered them.
Why ranting doesn’t work
It’s only natural to lash out when you’re in pain, including emotional anguish. Your words, however, won’t always describe what you want to say. They are stress reactions rather than nuggets of wisdom that heal.
Talking helps when you find the right words, not just any old ones, but those that enlighten and move the conversation forward. Often communicating when you’re angry or distraught makes a point. It has clout. But it doesn’t explain the cause of the problem that ails you.
