Hi Patrick. That’s a tricky subject because it’s not cut and dry. You may say a desire to end suffering is self-love. But genuine self-love doesn’t take the fast route to oblivion. It thinks enough of itself to stick around. (Unless terminal illness is involved in some cases). We could travel further into this subject. I’ll stop here though.
Self-love, not narcissism, helps us love other people because we have less hangups to see reflected in them.