Hi A.Thena. You're right. You can't change someone, and if a relationship's toxic, it's best to stop. I find, the first step to a healthy relationship with someone else is to first build a healthy relationship with yourself. So, you meet your needs, give yourself respect, and are loving to you. Then, you'll attract a great relationship or be happy as you are without a partner, whichever you prefer. Thanks for your comments!