You would be a fool not to want people to like you. When you are liked, you feel terrific. Plus, people enjoy your company and want to be with you.
Despite understanding it is advantageous to be liked, though, you might make one little mistake that detracts from your relationships and leaves you less likable. Swap it for this new behavior and you’ll see positive results.
What’s the life-changing habit you need to adopt? Give people your full attention. Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of the idea; it really works. Give people 100% of your attention and they will respond favorably.
The key to being likable is to like other people, and one way to show you like someone is to focus on them. This means not answering your phone when you are already having a conversation with someone.
It also means not making calls when you are with someone you’ve made an appointment to see. Whether you’re on a date, out with friends, or having coffee with your sister, ignore the urge to make a quick call until you are alone.
How else can you show people you are focusing on them? You can listen attentively. When you talk over someone, or aren’t listening because you’re thinking about what you want to say, you don’t pay attention and they know you aren’t interested.
Listen to people and you’ll not only understand them better, but you’ll also gain their respect. They will feel valued and appreciate your attention.
You’ll be one of the few people who seem to care what they think as much as you care about your own thoughts — a rare quality indeed.
Is there another way you can pay attention to someone? Yes. Remember vital details they disclose about their life. Start with their name, a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many people miss this important snippet.
Someone might talk about a problem they face, their hopes, or say where they are going on vacation. Do your best to retain such information and they will hold your relationship in high regard.
Get into the habit of giving people your complete attention and you’ll forge plenty of strong relationships. People will like you. Even if they can’t put their finger on what makes you so likable, they’ll know you are different from most of the people they meet.
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