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A Grudge Is a Hungry Animal
It won’t die until you stop feeding it
It’s hard to find a well-being book without a reference to forgiveness, and for a good reason.
Forgiveness puts the ferocious beast of bitterness in its cage.
The only problem is the notion you are wise to forgive is so familiar that you mightn’t take note — a case of not seeing the wood for the trees.
You understand the relief of forgiving if you have trained yourself to let go of grievances and start anew. You may think you don’t need gurus or psychologists to recommend you purge backbreaking resentment and uneasiness because you surrender them spontaneously.
Yet, when people plunge into a mire of outrage, forgiveness doesn’t beckon. Primal emotions ambush them and assign scuppering self-talk that espouses revenge.
They could imagine not mellowing their heart as a measure of strength and self-preservation — a misguided judgment.
Sometimes you may need to invoke courage and stand up for your rights. If you don’t, you are a bystander to crimes that allows destructive events to transpire.
Nonetheless…
